What Is “Parts Work” in Therapy and How Can It Help Me? — Chadley Zobolas Therapy Group
Maybe some of your worst patterns ... is- these aren’t just random observations! There are real, neurological connections between these Parts, and sometimes they really do need healing in order for you to be the person you truly want to be.... Maybe some of your worst patterns come out in arguments with your partner, or perhaps you feel totally odd, almost regressed, when you’re at your mom’s house for the holidays. The thing is- these aren’t just random observations! There are real, neurological connections between these Parts, and sometimes they really do need healing in order for you to be the person you truly want to be.They’re the parts that *seem* to have their shit together, who show up in settings where you need to look professional or adult. Often, their goal is to protect you from getting hurt. An example of a Manager part is a perfectionistic part who wants to make sure you don’t get in trouble for making mistakes.The exile parts are often in pain, experiencing shame, fear, or trauma. Most of the time, the exiles can be traced back to childhood. The reason they’re called Exiles is because both the Manager and the Firefighters (the third group) don’t want to experience their pain, and therefore try to “exile” them from our consciousness.Parts Work doesn’t stop at knowing what your Parts are. The goal is usually to help these parts integrate into a whole, healthy, authentic Self. An integrated Self can handle difficult family moments at the Thanksgiving dinner table, when before a younger Part might have reacted very differently.